“My mother, Annie, had dementia for ten years. It was not easily recognised at first as she was very resourceful in masking the symptoms. She was eventually diagnosed with vascular dementia and that diagnosis helped to access support at a local day centre and regular visits to the psychiatrist.
My mother was an active, independent woman who had worked all her life as well as managing the home, bringing up two daughters and caring for her husband. My father found her dementia very difficult to deal with. He would not recognise it as a disease and became increasingly stressed by the behaviours she manifested.
An Admiral Nurse was not available at the time but would have been such an enormous support to both my parents and to my sister and myself. I do not want other families to go through what we experienced without the help of a professional who knows and understands how to cope on a daily basis.
I hope that the gift in my Will can support the excellent work already being undertaken and especially promote the work of Admiral Nurses. I know many more are needed across the country to ensure that everyone who needs the support of an Admiral Nurse gets one. I hope my gift will add volume to the quieter voices of those dealing with this unremitting disease.
I found the process of including a gift in my Will very straightforward – it was totally in my control. I would say to anyone considering giving in this way – if it matters to you now, it will still matter when you’re gone. Cures take a very long time to achieve – living with the impact of dementia and its legacy lasts forever. Act now to know you are going to make a difference to the quality of someone’s life.”
Kevin explains why he and his husband have decided to leave a gift to Dementia UK in their Will